After Preston was born and we came home, I researched all the reasons why they said I needed to be put on pitocin and not wait for my body to naturally start labor. And guess what they were terrible reasons. I know if I would have let me body go into labor on it's own (not on the hospitals "must deliver within 24 hours" rule) then I would have had a healthy and natural birth and I know none of the bad things they said could happen would have happened. Who ever made up a rule that says you have to have a baby within 24 hours anyway?? So lame!
I am writing this so with my next labor I can remember that as long as I go to a hospital to have a baby I won't have the labor that I want, because OBGYN's only know how to manage a labor. They don't know how to naturally let it take it's course that God has made women capable of doing with out any intervention.
I do know that there are rare cases when you need an OBGYN but that is the exception not the rule. Most women have perfectly healthy labors, especially when all the hospital interventions are left out of it.
So things I want to remember for my next labor -
1. I know that I and my body are perfectly healthy and capable of natural child birth.
2. OBGYN's don't know what birth is supposed to be. To them it is just a process of bringing a healthy baby in to the world by any means, not necessarily the one's that are best for mom and baby.
3. Epidurals give me back and headaches that are terrible for months after I have the baby.
4. The natural adrenaline rush I had with Brooke was so great and I needed it so much after I had her. I felt completely sluggish and tired after I had Preston.
5. I want a midwife and want to birth in a birthing center or at home.
6. No matter how great I think a Dr. is, hospital's don't understand nor are they capable of helping women to have a natural birth.
7. The pain of childbirth is not pain but is rather an experience of life that helps you to really feel. It is also extremely temporary, while a lot of hospital interventions as small as they seem, may not be.
8. Don't compromise what you want because you don't want to hurt your Dr's feelings or feel like you are strange because you are questioning why he wants to do something.
9. As long as I keep having babies in the hospital I will feel robbed of the experience I really want.
To all those who are reading this and are thinking I am crazy - I know everyone has there own idea of birth. Mine is that birth is a normal and natural process. I also am scared of having babies in the hospital because I feel like I am giving up all my decisions and choices the minute I walk into the hospital.
2 comments:
I am with you on that Natalie. I have always wanted a baby at home, a little like the way I came into this world, but my husband doesn't feel that is right. We compromise, though. I have every say in the hospital of what they give me. So far I have had all my children naturally and I am walking out of the hospital the next day with no back pain, feeling great. Derek always tells me if I don't choose to have an epideral then he will. He hates to see me the last 20 min. of labor, where I am in so much pain that he says I don't have the same look in my countenance (eyes) and I squease his hand off. Two of the kids I didn't want an I.V. so they didn't put one in me. It is a smaller hospital, Preston is only 5000 people. Right now I am waiting for my little one to announce himself but no one is allowed to bring him into this world before he is ready. He is getting closer. After 4 deliveries I have learned Dr's are there for emergencies and I never go by their due dates because they always try to push the delivery into 38 weeks and not 40. They are so impatient. Well I just had to respond to your comment because I feel the same way and there are a lot of women that I know of that do to. Enjoy that little Preston. P.S. My Dad just got your card with the announcements and pictures of Preston. Cute!
Did you watch the documentary called "The Business of being born"?
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